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When persons fully recover from the pain of domestic violence, they no longer need to think of themselves as “victims” or “survivors.” Many such persons now find themselves wanting to help others who are still feeling pain. Stop Abusive and Violent Environments — SAVE — has created an Online Support Group. The Online Support Group […]

In order to overcome the pain, victims of domestic violence need to move from hurting, to healing, to eventually helping. Some persons have ended the relationship with their abuser and have safety measures in place. But months or years later, they are still “stuck” in their feelings. They are finding it hard to move on […]

Many victims and survivors decide to get help from a professional counselor. Be sure to choose a counselor who is appropriately trained and qualified to help persons with problems like yours. These counselors go by different names and have somewhat different training: Therapists Psychotherapists Psychologists Social workers Certified alcohol and drug counselors Pastoral counselors Psychiatrists [...]

Look over the following checklist. Think about how you are being treated — and how you treat your partner. Remember, when one person hurts or continually puts down the other person, it’s abuse. Do you… ____ Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act? ____ Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s […]

How to Escape the Abuse and Begin to Heal These advice sheets provide practical advice how to go from hurting, to healing, to helping: Escaping the Abuse: What is intimate partner abuse? Checklist: Are you being abused? How can I keep the abuse from escalating? What can I do to bring the problem under control? What is […]

SAVE offers a series of Special Reports that address a variety of domestic violence policy issues: Fundamentals: How Effective are Domestic Violence Programs in Stopping Partner Abuse? Estimated National Expenditures for Domestic Violence Services and Programs Accountability and Oversight of Federally-Funded Domestic Violence Programs: An Analysis Training, Education, and Public Awareness Programs: Most DV Educational […]

A false allegation can be a life-altering experience. But falsely accused persons often don't see it coming. These are some of the warning signs to look for: Your partner has gotten a restraining before and knows how to work the system. You and your partner are thinking about separating, and you are worried about an [...]

These are the legal changes that need to be made to assure the innocent are protected and true victims receive the priority they deserve: Limit definitions of domestic violence to physical “violence.” Require that accusers provide objective evidence (visible injury, medical record, police report, cell phone recording) of violence or harm before they can qualify [...]

Some persons believe the best defense is a strong offense. In domestic violence cases, this may or may not be true, depending on the facts of your case, your personal resources, and the legal climate in your jurisdiction. Some actions are appropriate to use during the resolution of your case, while others apply after your […]

Do not allow your partner to provoke you into breaking the restraining order. In many states, even a minor violation of a restraining order is grounds for arrest. If your partner tries to get you to break the order, document the action and seek immediate legal advice. Consider going to the judge to request the […]