Look over the following checklist. Think about how you are being treated — and how you treat your partner. Remember, when one person scares, hurts, or continually puts down the other person, it’s abuse.
____ Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
____ Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s behavior?
____ Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
____ Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
____ Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
____ Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke-up?
Does your partner…
____ Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
____ Put down your accomplishments or goals?
____ Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
____ Use intimidation or threats to force you to do things?
____ Tell you that you are nothing without them?
____ Treat you roughly — grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?
____ Call, email, or text you too many times a day?
____ Show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
____ Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
____ Blame you for how they feel or act?
____ Pressure you sexually for things you don’t want to do?
____ Make you feel like there is “no way out” of the relationship?
____Prevent you from doing things you want — like spending time with your friends or family?
____ Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to “teach you a lesson”?
If any of these are happening in your relationship, connect with someone who can help. Without getting help, the abuse will likely continue.
Reaching and Teaching Teens to Stop Violence. Nebraska Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Coalition. Lincoln, NE.
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