Safer Sex: Protect Yourself from a False Allegation
Consider these points to protect yourself from a false accusation:
1. Forget about the old idea that rape has to be “forcible.” Now it only has to be “non-consensual.”
2. Alcohol and sex don’t mix. Under the Department of Education’s 2011 Dear Colleague Letter, the mere “use” of a substance renders a person unable to give consent for sex, even if drinking a beer in advance is her idea.
3. Ask for your partner’s consent: “Are you OK with this?” Let your partner help you come inside so the act is clearly mutual.
4. Avoid kinky or rough sex.
5. Avoid implied favors-for-sex deals: “After we make Whoopee, maybe I can do that homework assignment for you.”
6. Be careful what you send in emails and Facebook posts.
7. Look for the red-flags why persons falsely accuse:
Wants to avoid the guilt for having sex
Doesn’t want to lose the relationship
One person is cheating
Wants to get back at you