Men are victims of domestic violence, too
Dec 27, 2013
By JIM RICHARDS, Randolph
It’s unfortunate but interesting that The Patriot Ledger gives attorney Wendy Murphy a weekly forum to advocate unfairness toward men (“Few bright spots of hope on the criminal blotter,” Dec. 21).
Ms. Murphy would have people believe that men are the nation’s primary child abusers and that “too many family court judges are ripping children out of the arms of protective mothers and sending them to live with abusive fathers.”
Yet according to “Safe Horizon,” which calls itself the largest victims’ services agency in the United States, 53.6 percent of the perpetrators of child abuse which were reported to their agency were female; only 45.2 percent of the perpetrators were male.
Ms. Murphy would also have people believe that when men suffer from domestic abuse, it’s a non-issue; it’s only when women suffer from abuse that it’s important.
Yet the American Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) found in a 2013 report that 29 percent of heterosexual men described being a domestic violence victim, although determining how many instances of domestic violence actually involve male victims is highly difficult, since male victims are often reluctant to get help, and some studies have shown that women who assaulted their male partners were more likely to avoid arrest even when the male victim contacts police.
Another study by Justice Quarterly examined the differences in how male and female batterers were treated by the criminal justice system, concluding that female perpetrators of intimate violence are frequently viewed by law enforcement and the criminal justice system as victims rather than offenders.
Other researchers have shown that many police officers do not treat domestic violence against men as a serious crime, and often will view the male victim as a “pathetic figure.”
The point is that both men and women suffer from domestic violence, but Ms. Murphy doesn’t care about the injustices against men, only the injustices committed against women and children, and she would have readers believe that men are the primary abusers of children, when the evidence suggests women commit more child abuse than men.
One would think that The Patriot Ledger would be against all abuse, against men, women and children, and that it wouldn’t allow Ms. Murphy to use her column to verbally abuse men ad nauseam. Yet it does just the opposite.