Pitting Women vs. Men, And Men Against Women

Stop Abusive and Violent Environments
September 4, 2012

When the Violence Against Women Act was first passed in 1994, we were told that VAWA would help contain conflict between intimate partners, and even promote respectful relationships between men and women.

Eighteen years later, it seems VAWA-funded programs are having the opposite effect.

Pitting Women Against Men

Domestic violence is an equal opportunity problem – men and women are equally likely to be physically aggressive with their intimate partners.

And a national Centers for Disease Control survey found that mutual partner abuse is commonplace.

But for some reason, VAWA-funded programs continue to misrepresent this fact, falsely stereotyping men as abusers and women as victims (1).

The effect is to convey a warped view of the domestic violence problem to the public, and to convince women to view their husbands as potential predators, not protectors.
This serves to undermine respectful and enduring relationships between the sexes.

Pitting Men Against Women

It’s hard to explain the feeling of being arrested and thrown in jail for a crime that you didn’t commit, and in fact never even occurred.

That’s what happened on August 18 to Gordon Smith of Delaware, whose ex-wife accused him – 8 times — of stalking and attacking her.

But the woman outsmarted herself. When police began to suspect the ruse, they gave Mr. Smith a GPS monitor – which proved he was nowhere around when the subsequent “attacks” took place.

Now Tiffany Smith is sitting in the Kent County jail, awaiting her punishment (2).

The fact is, one in 10 persons has been falsely accused of domestic violence, sexual assault, or child abuse (3). In most cases, the falsely accused person is a man.

De-escalate Battle of the Sexes

Increasingly, women fear men will abuse them. And men fear women will falsely accuse them.

At this point we might ask ourselves, Is this the bright vision of America that we aspire to fulfill?


  1. http://www.saveservices.org/downloads/SAVE-DV-Educational-Programs
  2. http://delaware.newszap.com/centraldelaware/116243-70/smiths-e-wife-charged-with
  3. http://www.saveservices.org/falsely-accused/survey/