Men Batter, Women “Use Force”
October 17, 2011
I followed a link at Reddit the other day that led to a discussion about domestic violence, and came upon yet another sad example of double standards. In fact, this one is so blatant and so removed from reality that it raises the question of whether some of these feminist domestic violence activists are not merely ideologues, but outright liars.
Because October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Michigan’s public radio network decided to air a program called “Safe at Home,” in which the hosts speak with various “experts” on the subject. Sadly, the experts clearly have more than just domestic violence prevention in mind, they have an ideological axe to grind:
Larance explains that it is important to make the distinction between the ways men and women use violence in their relationships. Even the language is different. Men “batter”, women “use force.”
“The term ‘batterer’ is actually a gender specific term that refers to coercively controlling tactics…That power and control dynamic that really defines domestic violence is often not a power and control dynamic that women are able to access.”
Some might argue that violence is violence—regardless of who throws the blow—and that changing the language around it minimizes the experience of male victims. However, Larance explains that women use physical force differently, often to take short-term control of a chaotic situation with their partner, rather than to maintain long-term power and control.
Research shows that women are more likely to take responsibility when a violent incident is first reported and less likely to identify as survivors of domestic violence if they have a history of abusive relationships. “They do so because they see themselves as very strong and it’s important for them to believe in that sense of agency,” Larance says.
The RENEW program provides support and advocacy for these women.
Read this closely, and it’s apparent that Larance sees female domestic violence as, at least in part, a positive thing. It gives women “agency.” They are “taking control of a chaotic situation.”
And, of course, it’s different because women are not “able to access” the “power and control dynamic,” except in the “short term,” which makes it OK.
If anyone still believes that feminists are dedicated to equality and domestic harmony, the above passage should clearly dispel that notion. In fact, the implication is that women who beat the crap out of their partners should expect “support and advocacy” — hardly an egalitarian sentiment.
Men who strike out, on the other hand, will naturally be treated as criminals. This is clearly the intent of the language distinction: Men are “batterers” because battery is always a crime. Women “use force” because use of force can be justified. It’s such a transparent attempt to manipulate language to favor violent women that even a child could see through it, but the feminists shamelessly persist.
Given the disaster domestic law has become, it’s high time we reevaluate the programs in place to alleviate domestic violence, particularly when some of them actually condone what they claim to be opposing.
If police are forced to take a zero-tolerance approach to domestic violence, often disregarding the circumstances, then we should expect a similar standard from those who work with the courts and social services, because otherwise taxpayers are funding two groups that are working against each other. It is not only inefficient when government encourages the same crime it prosecutes; it is unconscionable.