In a statement to the Advisory Committee for the Office on Violence against Women on June 2, 2011 in Washington DC:
Hello. I want to thank you for the opportunity to speak to you today. It means a lot to me.
For the last nine years I have communicated with, advocated for, and written about thousands of men and women in the Equal Parenting and Family Rights Movements. The number one issue they tell me about is False Allegations of Abuse. In fact, this issue has affected nearly everyone I hear from.
Some of the people who have been falsely accused of abuse have committed suicide. Others have lost everything: their homes, their jobs, their children and their mental health. It’s terrible.
I wanted to tell you about them today. But as I went to put my words on paper, I realized that nothing I could possibly write would do justice to the pain and suffering they endure. So I decided to share their words with you.
My name is Sophie. I was born and raised in a career military family which taught me respect, integrity and honesty. I learned to work hard, play by the rules, respect my elders and respect my country. My name is Sophie, and I have been falsely accused of domestic violence.
My name is Bob. I am a father of six, and a Marine. I spanked one of my children and was investigated for it. I was completely cleared of being a danger, but that didn’t stop the Domestic Violence Industry from destroying my family. They showed my wife the old power and control wheel, and convinced her that I was a controlling husband.
My wife has mental health issues. And they left her alone to raise our six children. Now she’s under incredible stress. And my kids, who used to be straight-A students, are failing school and getting in trouble with the law. All I want to do is protect my family, but they have left me powerless to do that. My name is Bob, and I have been falsely accused of domestic violence.
My name is Kathy. My husband plotted, planned and played the family court system with all it’s faults. Due to him getting a restraining order I lost access to my children, my home and my dignity, all without an evidentiary hearing. His claims didn’t even meet the standard for fear or harm, but it tore our whole family apart. My name is Kathy, and I have been falsely accused of domestic violence.
My name is Paul. My last girlfriend has filed false allegations of domestic violence against several ex-boyfriends during their break-ups, and even against neighbors, always recanting her claims later. She even accused me at one time. My girlfriend had a lot of problems, and was not a well-liked person.
In October 2009 she filed a declaration with police that our lives had been threatened by two individuals. A week later she was murdered and her body was set on fire in our cottage. Because she had filed that restraining order against me, I was charged with her murder.
The District Attorney and the police withheld and destroyed evidence that could have cleared me. The jury was never told about her mental health history, the multiple false allegations she had made, or even the death threats. Using the new California Hearsay Law, with no evidence what-so-ever, I was convicted of a murder I did not commit. My name is Paul, and I have been falsely accused of domestic violence.
I am an accused perpetrator of domestic violence. I am your neighbor, co-worker, friend, family member, a male or a female. I could be your child’s teacher, a business person, lawyer, or a member of the U.S. Armed Forces. I worship at your church, and you will always find me volunteering in the community. I am anyone, and I have been falsely accused of domestic violence.
These people represent two million new victims of false allegations of domestic violence each and every year.
Two-thirds of all domestic violence allegations are found to be unnecessary or false. There are many incentives to lie, from free housing, free education and free electricity to instantly gaining sole custody of minor children. And even though it is illegal to file false police reports or to lie in family court, there are very few repercussions.
Eleven percent of Americans polled said they had been falsely accused of domestic violence, child abuse or sexual assault. These individuals who have been falsely accused of abuse are just as much victims as those who are physically battered.