In a statement to the Advisory Committee for the Office on Violence against Women on June 2, 2011 in Washington DC:
My name is Gordon Smith and I am from the great state of Delaware.
I appreciate the opportunity to speak to you today.
I stand before you as somewhat of a urban myth. You see – I am a victim of false allegations of domestic violence and an urban myth in the sense of most in the domestic violence industry refuse to acknowledge that such a victim exists. Or if such a mythical victim does exist, it’s victimization is so infrequent that it effect is minuscule.
I have even been referred to as unfortunate “collateral damage” by a Delaware State Legislator.
I will not share with you my thoughts or feelings about the current domestic violence policies in the state of Delaware instead, I will share with you what Family Law and Family Court officials from the state of Delaware have said regarding the subject. The following are actual quotes:
Delaware Secretary of Family Youth and Childrens Services Vivian Rapposelli – “PFA’s are often used as pawns in divorce cases.” (Delaware State News – April 19, 2010)
Family Law Commission Chairperson Lynn Kokjohn – “False allegations of sexual abuse have become the weapon of choice for mothers seeking to alienate their childrens father in custody cases.” (Delaware State News – April 9, 2010)
Chief Family Court Judge Chandlee Kuhn – “I know there are abuses made (in the PFA system) “Unfortunately, the people who are domestic violence advocates are reluctant to give up or make any changes.” (Family Law Commission meeting May 13, 2010)
Former Family Law Commission Chairperson Senator Liane Sorenson – “One of our problems that has come up repeatedly to the Commission from the public has been the filing of false Protection from Abuse orders…The public has asked why people get away with claiming abuse when it didn’t happen.” (Family Law Commission meeting April 17, 2008)
Dr. Harriet Ainbinder – best summed it up for everyone when she said – “I want to remind everyone that previously we had the Attorney General here to talk about false allegations and he told us that essentially he would not pursue that (false allegations) because of various legal issues. (Family Law Commission meeting May 14, 2009)
Delaware Attorney General Joseph Biden lll – “False Protection From Abuse orders are not the issue…the vast majority of them are sought in good faith and are granted accurately.” (Family Law Commission Meeting April 17, 2008)
Our very own Attorney General has made it clear that he will do nothing to protect those who are the victims of false allegations of domestic violence.
As I have sat here during your meetings, I have listened as you have addressed everything from excessive text messaging to actual sexual assault.
I would like to reference the article that the Washington Post did on the case of the Fairfax County school teacher who was falsely accused of sexual abuse. His life was devastated.
I would like ask you to place the same degree of emphasis on educating young girls on the devastating effects of false allegations as you do on your other issues.