Lip-biting was final straw for man in abusive relationship

By Ashley Meeks

05/06/2011

LAS CRUCES –

“That’s when she reached over and bit off my lip,” he said Thursday, a soda with a straw in it on the table in front of him, his words muffled from about 20 stitches and swelling that has yet to go down on the left side of his mouth. “I pushed her off me and over the car. It was just a few seconds. I didn’t even know my lip was gone until the police came over.”

Bloodied, Trone and his lip, which had been left on the pavement outside the room and was placed on ice, were taken to University Medical Center in El Paso.

“As soon as we got there, they called the surgeon and he said he wasn’t going to be able to put it back on,” Trone said.

After spending the night in a school playground, 26-year-old Aurelia Lorena Reyes – who was on probation for a conviction last year, for battery, also against Trone – surrendered to police Monday and was jailed on a felony charge of aggravated battery against a household member causing great bodily injury…

…”A lot of people have the perception, ‘Well, she’s so tiny, how come he can’t hold her off?'” Hall said. But, she said, even a difference of size doesn’t excuse the kind of abuse she says Reyes inflicted on her son…

…Hall says she doesn’t want what happened to her son to happen to anyone else, and wants others in abusive relationships to get out while they can – male or female.

“They shouldn’t be afraid to come forward,” she said.

Men can be victims, too

Pat Acosta, Batterer Intervention Program coordinator for La Casa domestic violence shelter in Las Cruces, agrees.

“We’ve always known that domestic violence doesn’t discriminate,” she said. “There are male aggressors as well as female offenders.”

And domestic violence happens in every income level and every education level, in every ethnic group and every neighborhood, she said.

“It’s very important to seek help, recognize that you have a problem, and there is help for male and female offenders as well as male and female victims,” Acosta said. “I know here at La Casa, our program has provided services – and shelter – for male victims. Now, males tend to be somewhat not wanting to report domestic violence, because a lot of those stereotypes and things that exist out there: ‘I’m a man, I’m not going to call myself a victim,’ but they need to know there is help out there.”

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