Dear Abby recently received a letter from a woman in Lubbock, TX inquring about homeless housing options. A quick internet search reveals there are several homeless shelters in Lubbock:  

But Dear Abby advises the woman who is not being abused to move into a women’s shelter until her husband can earn enough money to pay their rent.

Let’s tell Dear Abby that Abuse Shelters are designed to help victims of domestic violence, not serve as an overflow homeless shelter. Here’s her internet address to make your complaint: 


Hard Choice for Homeless Parents
Washington Times
February 22, 2011

Dear Abby:

I need advice from someone who doesn’t know me personally. My husband and I have been married for four years and have three lovely kids. Recently, we have hit hard times.

A few months ago, my husband lost his job, and from there we hit rock bottom. Right now we are sleeping in our car. My problem is, I don’t like having my kids live like this. It makes me mad, and I fell like a bad parent. I could go to a women’s shelter, but I don’t want to break up my family. I’m scared, and amd not sure what to do.

My husband is working now, but we don’t have enough money to get an apartment, so I was considering staying in a hotel — but it will take some time before we can do that. Do you think we should stay at the shelter until we have a place or until we can get a hotel room? I need some serious advice.


I’m glad you asked. You should check out the shelter and see what kind of accommodations can be made for you and your small childlren. It’s a better, safer environment for them than five people sleeping in a car. I know this is a painful decision, but it isn’t breaking up the family. It is only temporary until you and your husband have saved enough for accommodations again.